The family forum and charter: what does the family forum need to consider?
Why hold a family forum?
- Build a stronger family
- Build a stronger business
- Plan for future ownership
- Plan for family participation in the business
- Help the children manage inherited wealth
- Open up the succession process
- Preserve family values
- Professionalise the business
- Manage family/board relations
- Recognise and resolve conflict.
Rules
1. Listen to each other:
- external
- shut the door
- don’t make calls
- don’t doodle
- don’t interrupt, even if you disagree
- don’t make asides
- use positive body language. - Internal
- put yourself in the other persons shoes
- put your own views aside
- put your own needs aside. - verbal
- ask for clarification
- ask for amplification
- summarise what was said
- useful openings
- dangerous openings.
2. Listen for what is not being said:
- understand the motives behind the comment
3. Try to understand each others viewpoint:
- avoid interpreting for others
- let the other person finish before passing judgement
- ask about their thoughts, reasoning, and feelings.
4. Don’t concentrate on the past:
- learn from it; don’t drag it up, BUT past blockages must be cleared.
5. Don’t wait for the other person to change first
6. Aim for consensus:
- understanding the ideals of the organisation which make consensus rather than majority rule preferable
- understanding of individuals constituting the group and their idiosyncrasies
- deep commitment to listening
- clear sense of trust in the validity of each members contribution
- openness to learn from those who may be better informed on a certain matter
- acceptance that individual knowledge untempered by group wisdom is often very shallow
- willingness to examine oneself, in particular when a compromise would be the right solution.
7. Avoid making demands
8. Focus on goals rather than on personalities – don’t play that emotional card.
Why have a constitution?
- Harmony
- Clarity
- Avoids conflicts
- Gives a clear message to family and staff
- Sets expectations at an appropriate level.
A Family Constitution
- Family job specifications
- Performance appraisal
- Non-family managers
- Leadership
- Voting and share ownership
- Buy – sell agreements
- Board of Directors and their power
- Establishment of a family Council if appropriate
- Communication
- Ethical guidelines
- Position of women, and in-laws
- Requirements before joining
- Procedure for amendment of Constitution.
Long term goals
What are the family’s objectives?
- Keep it?
- Sell it?
- Float it?
Management philosophy
- Best interests of the family always first?
- Best interests of the business always first
- Combination of both; how will you achieve balance?
Family members in the business
- What should be the criteria for entry into the firm?
- Should in-laws be allowed to join?
- How will the roles of family members be determined?
- How should family members be remunerated?
- How should their performance be evaluated and by whom?
- What if the family members do not perform to an appropriate standard?
Share ownership
- Should shareholders regard themselves as owning an asset to yield a capital sum in due course, or as custodians of the shares for the next generation?
- If they are to be a realisable asset, is everyone aware of this and are there procedures for those who want to cash their shares?
- If the latter, is the company geared to providing income and pension rights instead?
- How can those who must unlock their shares?
- Who will be allowed to own shares?
- Who should have voting control?
- What should the dividend policy be?
- What will happen as regards share ownership in the next generation?
- Should family members who are active in the business be treated differently from those who are inactive?
Management succession
- What should be the criteria for selecting the next leader?
- When will the transition take place?
- What should be done if the choice is wrong?
- What do the directors want in retirement
- How can the family help the directors to achieve them?
Relationships within the family
- What responsibilities do members have towards each other?
- What is the best way to ensure an atmosphere that enhances mutual respect and support?
- How should intra-family differences be dealt with?
Other matters
- Should the business have independent directors?
- What is their role within the family?
- How can the family protect the security of loyal employees?
- What role should the business have in the community?
Mechanism
- A family council?
- Retreats?
- Facilitator?
- Family constitution?
It will all depend upon a willingness to listen, to compromise; and a desire to make it all work.
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